Edit Your Feed

The first time I ever told anyone to edit their feed, I was standing in my kitchen on a Monday morning in 2020, talking into my phone for a little series I called Mindful Monday. No real plan. The lighting was whatever the kitchen felt like giving me. I had already filmed the whole thing once and forgotten to hit record. And I have been saying the same thing every Monday since, which tells you I probably needed to hear it more than anyone.

So here it is again. How does your feed make you feel?

Not what is on it. How it leaves you. There is a kind of scrolling that lights me up, the woman a chapter ahead who makes the next part look survivable, the friend whose garden sends me straight outside to get my hands in the dirt. And there is the other kind. The kind where I am suddenly taking inventory of everything I am apparently doing wrong at 54, on a Tuesday, in my own house, for absolutely no reason.

Let me be honest, because it is the only thing I know how to be here. I do this too. I have built an entire life around not measuring your worth by a mirror or a number, and I will still catch myself doing exactly that with a phone in my hand. Like hitting refresh after you post on repeat to see if the engagement is better…GUILTY.

Here is what I keep relearning. Almost all of it is the edit, not the life. The good light, the good day, the good angle. I would know, I make the stuff too, and even I reach for the better window some mornings. So when you scroll and feel smaller, you are not losing to someone’s life. You are losing to their edit. Of course you are. It was built to win.

So edit back. If an account makes you braver, keep it close. If it makes you shrink, mute it, unfollow it, no note required. That is not bitterness. It is the same thing I do to a tomato plant that is hogging all the light and giving nothing back. You prune for the health of the whole thing.

Here is what I did not understand back in that kitchen. The editing was the whole point. Not the feed. The life. I was years from ever calling any of this The Indie Edit, and I had no idea I was already describing it. Keep what serves you, cut what does not. Turns out that was never a social media tip. It is just how I have had to live, especially in the years my body made the decision for me.

So, one small edit this week. Mute one account that makes you shrink. Keep three that make you braver.

Then do the part I actually care about. Tell me the three. I am always hunting for people who make this life feel bigger, and I would so much rather hear it from you than from an algorithm. Drop them below. I will be in the comments reading every single one.

With love from Dragonfly Farm,
Indie